When I was pregnant with Emilia I would imagine what life with two under two would be like ! Nothing prepared me for the full on craziness that would now be our lives. I had visions of Noah happily playing with his toys while his sister would be sleeping in her crib . That really was a nice day dream 😉 Instead the first few weeks were challenging and that was with the huge help we had (still have) from my mother !
Simple things like which child do I go to first when both were crying and the look of horror on Noah’s face when I had his sister in my arms instead of him . It was that look coupled with a section recovery that gave me my first bad mommy guilt . Whenever we dared complain about how tired we were and how demanding life with two small children was we were advised by well meaning people to just get on with it ! That was way easier said than done especially when you had a new baby who would only sleep on mommy during the day and would scream blue murder if she was left down and a very active toddler who loved to climb and open every door in the house.
To be honest I did not think I would survive those first few months it tested my relationship with my husband more than anything else we had been through before. I mean how on earth can you have a rational conversation at 3 in the morning with a screaming baby and another child who woke looking for instant attention. No seriously, if you know how to do this please let me know !!! The first day I had the two on my own was just awful and ended with two children screaming the house down while a lovely neighbour attempted to have a conversation over the noise ! I practically threw the kids at daddy that night when he got in .
Now that we are coming out of the fog a little (said with fingers crossed 😉 ) I can honestly say we survived and I have actually learnt a few things
1. This too shall pass is a phrase you will say a thousand times (usually at 2am through gritted teeth)
2. Pre plan every trip out of the house ! It can now actually take 2 hours to be fully ready to leave the house 😉
3.Children first , house second – Seriously no one expects you to live in a show house especially in those first few weeks ( or in my case months !! )
4. People will give you loads of unhelpful advice – Ignore it all – despite what you think , you do actually know what your doing !
5. You learn something new every day – Like how to but both kids in car at once , not to leave milk in arms reach of toddler .. you know really important stuff .
6. You will learn to function on very little sleep ! In fact You will laugh in the face of people who get a full nights sleep ….. or cry and wish it as you who was getting the sleep 😉
7.It does get easier ….. I know people do not believe me but seriously it really really does and you even begin to enjoy the crazy new way of living.